Have you ever heard yourself saying:
Why don’t we have sex like we used to?
He doesn’t want to have sex as often.
I feel like she is doing it because she has too.
What can I do to improve our sex life?
If these thoughts have ever run through your head or are running through your head right now you are in good company. These are just a few of the most common questions that I hear as a…
Ahoy matey, I be needin’ to give a go’ somethin’ kinky – that is “pirate speak” for “hey there, I want to try something kinky”.
When exploring sexually uncharted waters there are a few quick steps you can follow to avoid things going south (not in the good way). Unfortunately, porn has become the default sex education. So we watch something online and then think that we know it…
That doesn’t quite sound right coming from a sexologist! Don’t we all love sex? Don’t we all want more sex? Yes! But we want great sex! More bad sex is not something that most sane people desire. Let’s face it bad sex sucks! You may be asking yourself, how could saying “yes” to sex make it worse? Doesn’t practice make perfect?
If you are not feeling it say so, say no! …
Let’s face it, bad sex sucks! There are no two ways about it. You know that awkward, uncomfortable feeling that comes over you afterwards. You know it was bad. Your partner knows it was bad, but you don’t want to say anything to offend your partner. So you just pretend everything is normal. That is until you leave or they leave and then you replay it in your head and cringe, laugh or…
By Stephen de Wit
You come home from work early. You wake up to get a drink of water. You are using his laptop. And you find out he is cheating on you, not with another woman, but with porn! Your brain kicks into overdrive. I am not good enough, he does not think I am sexy, I do not satisfy him sexually, he is a pervert, he is addicted to porn! STOP! Over the years many women have…
By: Stephen de Wit
“Life’s journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well preserved body, but rather to slide in sideways, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, screaming ‘HOLY CRAP what a ride!’” George Carlin
“Dance like no one is watching. Love like you’ll never be hurt. Sing like no one is listening. Live like it is heaven on earth.” William Purkey
These are just two…
By Stephen de Wit
With this article I am planning on single-handedly dismantling the story lines of many a blockbuster movie and the plots of many books. The way to find the world’s best lover is…are you ready? By a show of hands who wants to find the world’ best lover? Yes, I am serious. Raise your hand. It’s you! That’s it! You found her!
For centuries women have gushed over…
By Stephen de Wit
I hear it over and over. Why does my partner want to have a threesome with me and another woman? My answer is always I do not know what your partner’s motivation is, there could be a thousand different reasons. The important question to ask is what do you think about having sex with another woman (or man for that matter) and your partner and more importantly what is your…
By Stephen de Wit
If you have read the Sex Negotiations – 101 article you are half way there. Now the second and for some people the most challenging part: How to communicate with your partner, well let me correct that, how to communicate well about sex with your partner. We are in a constant state of communication, through body language, silence, moans, grunts, screams, arguments and…
Booty Call, Friends with Benefits or Committed
Do you know what you really want?
Ladies your time has come – and men need your help. We are now in what I like to call the pleasure evolution. Sex can be an expression of deep love, commitment and passion for a single person. Or it can be an expression of independence, power and prowess as a woman towards multiple partners. Is one better…
