February 2019


Single on Valentine’s Day – Create the Perfect “I Love Me” Day

By Lisa Chin Quee

No need to hate the day of love or pretend that you do. There is no other love more important than the love you have for yourself. So whatever you would do with a significant other – if you had one – do it. Make it all about you! Treasure your time. What does Valentine’s Day mean to you – flowers, chocolates, romantic dinner, or cards?


Buy yourself your favorite flowers, they don’t have to be roses. Since giving is one of the best things you can do for yourself  –  buy a bunch of flowers for someone that you appreciate.


Buy yourself those chocolates! In fact, buying your own chocolates guarantee you will get the ones you really enjoy.

Romantic dinner

Put on your favorite CD, playlist or try something new ( old school – Billie Holiday, Etta James, Barbara Streisand ) pour a glass of wine or your favorite bubbly and prepare that delicious three course meal. Yes, because you are that special!


Give Valentine’s Day cards to your co-workers, in fact go out and buy the children’s cards, similar to the ones you once gave to your friends when you were eight years old.  Your co-workers will get a kick out of it and you will have fun preparing and handing them out.

Hang with other singles

Organize a group outing with your other single friends: roller-skating, ice-skating, bowling and karaoke.

Spa day – book it now.

Books and magazines

Cuddle up with your favorite book or magazines; play some Nina Simone, Diana Krall or other crooner.

It’s all about you!

10 Things to Do on Valentine’s Day

By Lisa Chin Quee

Valentines Day: the most romantic day of the year – “most” in the sense of thousands of couples showing their adoration for each other on the official day of love. But as we all know, celebrating your love can happen any day of the year! Romance is more romantic when it’s unexpected.

Roses, chocolates, special dinners are all traditional ways of honoring your special person – but don’t get caught up in what everyone else is doing. Do what has become special in your relationship, do what signifies your unique bond. Don’t succumb to peer pressure and feel you must deliver by way of society’s expectations.

On that note, you should probably plan to do something, no matter how tiny on that day if you do not want to get the cold shoulder. We’ve gathered some ideas on ways to plan an evening of bonding,  appreciation and to help remind you of why you are falling or have fallen in love.

1. Games (board games, card games)

Spend an evening playing your favorite board game…with a Valentines twist – winner gets whatever they want. Up the stakes with a little strip poker.

2. Couples massage

3. Bowling

4. Music

Spend an evening listening to your favorite love songs together. Go through your play lists (this works well if you both have your own playlists) and compete by going back and forth, each time trying to outdo the other on the best love songs. This is particularly fun for those in their late 30’s plus, you can go back to the 70’s, 80’s and 90’s. (After dinner)

5. Rollerskating

6. Ice Skating

Who can forget Sara Thomas (played by Kate Beckinsale) and John Trager’s (played by John Cusack) romantic encounter on the ice in the  movie Serendipity.

7. Cooking together

  • Prepare your Valentines meal together, preferably something neither of you have cooked before.
  • Plan your menu, each choosing what they will be responsible for making.
  • Get out your CD’s, playlist of slow songs – your favorites.
  • Bottle of wine or libation of choice.
  • Set the table or picnic by the fireplace, or in the middle of the living room floor.

8. Valentine Lovepons aka coupons

Create special love coupons that are only valid for Feb. 14. Use your photoshop, word or other software to create your own personal coupons. Make sure to include the fine print (stipulations), valid/expiration date and exactly what they will receive with their coupon

9. The Silent Treatment

A new twist – this one is for parents with small kids.

  • Order in, or go out for dinner so that mom or dad doesn’t have to cook.
  • Watch a family movie.
  • Create family poem on love – what love means to them and the family.

After the children have gone to bed, the new twist on silent treatment comes into play. Since having kids it’s difficult to have those wild loud lovemaking sessions you once did. Here is an opportunity to have some fun with it. Whatever you do to make your toes curl, the banging of the bed post against the wall and the wailing scream of satisfaction – do it. But the challenge is that you cannot respond in any of those ways, you must remain silent, but your partner has to try their hardest (no pun intended) to make you respond in your loudest most wild ways.

10. Staycation

Try a mini vacation, new location could be a night at a hotel downtown, after dinner or no dinner at all.

Enjoy your love day!